Relationship Checklist
What Determines Who Marries Whom?
In rank order of importance
1. Compatibility:
– Emotional Compatibility: Sharing a deep emotional connection and understanding.
– Personality Compatibility: Having complementary or compatible personalities.
2. Shared Values and Beliefs:
– Core Values: Similar values regarding family, religion, ethics, and life priorities.
– Life Goals: Alignment on long-term goals, such as career ambitions, having children, and lifestyle preferences.
3. Love and Affection:
– Romantic Love: Strong feelings of love and affection.
– Physical Attraction: Mutual physical attraction.
4. Excitement and Passion:
– Excitement: Feeling energized and enthusiastic about the relationship and future together.
– Passion: A strong sense of desire and passion that keeps the relationship vibrant.
5. Communication:
– Open Communication: Ability to discuss anything openly and resolve conflicts effectively.
– Emotional Intimacy: Being able to share personal thoughts and feelings.
6. Trust and Reliability:
– Trust: Confidence in each other’s honesty and integrity.
– Dependability: Being reliable and supportive.
7. Social and Cultural Compatibility:
– Cultural Background: Similar cultural, ethnic, or religious backgrounds, which can ease family acceptance and social integration.
– Social Class: Comparable socioeconomic status, educational background, and social circles.
8. Mutual Respect and Support:
– Respect: Valuing each other’s opinions, feelings, and individuality.
– Support: Providing emotional, financial, and practical support.
9. Practical Considerations:
– Financial Stability: Both’s financial stability and compatibility in financial management.
– Location and Lifestyle: Agreement on where to live and preferred lifestyle.
10. Family and Peer Approval:
– Family Approval: Acceptance and support from family members.
– Peer Influence: Positive opinions and support from friends.
11. Timing and Readiness:
– Readiness for Commitment: Both feeling ready for a long-term commitment.
– Life Stage: Being at a similar life stage in terms of personal and professional development.
12. Health and Well-being:
– Physical and Mental Health: Consideration of each other’s health and ability to support one another.