Category: Dating Advice

Pictures Give the Wrong Impression

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Rav Chaim Kanievsky Shlita in response to a question about asking a shadchan for a picture to see if he finds her attractive to save time said: ! שתויות! הוא לא יראה כלום – צריך לפגוש “This is nonsense! He will not see anything. He must meet [her]!” “He will not see anything” was corroborated

Beauty is Skin Deep: Ugly is to the Bone

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HOW DO YOU WANT OTHERS TO SEE YOU? To see the extent that we project a different face to the world, take a look at the right side of your face covering the left side. Then look at the left side and cover the right side. Are you seeing the same person? FIRST IMPRESSIONS ARE

It is Only with the Heart that One Sees Rightly

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Use your head to narrow down the possibilities, use your heart to recognize your one and only. The Torah recognizes the schism between the logic of the brain and wisdom of the heart which is deemed preeminent. To illustrate the wisdom of the heart, let’s get to the heart of the matter. Let’s talk in

Building a Relationship with that Perfect Stranger

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Across the table, on the first shidduch date, is the perfect stranger. Perfect, cause all the checkboxes are checked, or you wouldn’t be there in the first place. How do you get from here to the love of your life? Don’t be an AJ – Arrogant Jerk Confidence is alluring and make you desirable, but

Protocols of Shidduchim

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We live our lives distorting reality, at least to some extent, to the way we want it to be, not the way it is. Nowhere is this more salient, as in shidduchim. Shidduchim has its own protocols – usual and customary practice – which does not change because that’s the way you want it to