What’s in a Name? Who you are compatible with!

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The Torah tells us that Adam named all the animals. The Torah tells us that names were changed; Avrom to Avroham, Sari to Sarah, Yaakov to Yisroel. The Torah tells us what the Avos named their children and why. In one case, it was Hashem who selected the name, Yitzchok. Today, it is not until

Protocols of Shidduchim

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We live our lives distorting reality, at least to some extent, to the way we want it to be, not the way it is. Nowhere is this more salient, as in shidduchim. Shidduchim has its own protocols – usual and customary practice – which does not change because that’s the way you want it to

Negative Information that a Reference May, May Not, or Must Reveal

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Rabbi Yisrael Gans, Rosh Yeshiva of Kol Torah, explains what a reference is permitted to say, is prohibited to say, or is obligated to say. When calling references, Yismach urges you to limit your questions and structure them according to the parameters delineated in this Shiur of Rabbi Yisrael Gans, Rosh Yeshiva of Kol Torah.

Shadchan Fee

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A Shadchan is entitled to a fee by Jewish Law. In Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat, Jewish Laws of monetary matters are laid out in a systematic comprehensive manner. In the section on the obligation to pay an agent, such as a real estate agent, the RAMA commented that a shadchan is an agent like a

America’s Secret War Against Marriage

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ANTI-MARRIAGE MANIFESTO The famous 19th century socialist Robert Owen included the family, along with marriage and private property, in his ‘triumvirate of evil’, which, he asserted, has ‘cursed the world ever since the creation of man’.  Gloria Steinem, the famous celebrity feminist, once declared, ‘We have to abolish and reform the institution of marriage…By the

Rav Zilberstein on an Unbelievable Shidduch Dilemma

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At his engagement, the boy is told that his future bride is a convert from Poland whose family was originally from Germany. Not just that, but during the war her grandfather was the head of the Gestapo in Poland. Not just that, but he personally killed the boys grandmother. What to do?

A Shadchan’s Perspective on the Shidduch Crisis

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Much ink has been spilled about the shidduch crisis, with much of it pointing an accusatory finger at the singles themselves for their single state. Paradoxically, many are plagued with thoughts of despair and hopelessness such as: “The shadchan knows hundreds of people, and I haven’t got any suggestions in months! Is something wrong with

Yismach Uses Today’s Tools to Reinforce the Old-Fashioned Time Tested Shidduch System

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Yismach was launched to perpetuate the old fashioned, well established shidduch system. Yismach was created as an aid to the established, recognized shadchanim who meet people and jot relevant information on handwritten notes. In order for information to be up-to-date, rather than shadchanim inputting the information, those in shidduchim were asked to provide their shidduch